Fool Fred Fear

I just wanted to introduce my monkey.

He is my fear monkey. His name is Fred.

Actually I like to call him “Fool Fred” and for some reason. I like to think he  is a blue and squishy monkey.

He is always with me, he comes with me everywhere. He is my fear. I accept the fact the he tags along, but if you can picture this, I just wrap his little blue legs around, my waist, wrap his ridiculously long blue monkey arms around my neck and shoulders, and I squash and push his menacing head right out of my face – and then I just carry on and take him with me. He comes everywhere with me, but I just push his little head right out of the way so I don’t have to listen to him.

Yup, lil’ ol’ Fed is with me all the time. I think he may just yet become my companion – the silly little guy. He likes to be there and say bad things all the time, like when I go someplace I don’t want to, or I have to talk about something I really don’t want, he is very persistent;  that fool Fred when I have to do something I absolutely don’t want to do because I am afraid of something. He used to be really good at antagonizing, but I got really sick of him doing that. So now, I understand a situation or a place may be uncomfortable – something I don’t want to do or someplace I don’t want to be, I understand; ok Fred is here, but I shall just not listen to him anymore. It is normal to worry and be uncomfortable in situations – I am just human and I understand that. But I’m really sick of listening to Fool Fred and preventing me from doing things. So if he must be with me, that is fine, but he is just not in my face anymore, I push him out of the way and realize, “yup Fred, it’s natural to be a little scared, but really now, lets not make it any worse”.

So I just tuck little ol’ Fred around me and carry on, he can come if he wants but I now control Fred like the monkey he is, he is not controlling me.

That is my Fool Fred Fear – under control…

I wonder what Fred and I will do tomorrow?!?! – (tee hee)

Requirements

WHAT I REALLY NEED IN MY LIFE  

A)    Select the words below which to fit into the following sentence. Add any other important needs in your life.

“What I really need in my life right now is more…”

  

Vitality                  Self-esteem                 Tenderness                  Composure

Security                 Recognition                Generosity                  Centering

Activity                 Confidence                  Caring                         Awareness

Health                   Motivation                  Sharing                        Solitude

Strength                Knowledge/Skill         Music                          Devotion

Energy                   Opportunities             Laughter                     Contemplation

Fitness                   Challenges                 Support                      Serenity

Relaxation             Variety                       Self-expression            Trust

Comfort                Structure                     Companionship           Insight

Nutrition               Accomplishments        Harmony                     Joy

Touching               Control                       Romance                     Commitment

Imagination           Intimacy                      Communion

Sleep                     Money                        Patience                       Integration

Coordination         Responsibility              Beauty                         Forgiveness

Flexibility              Education/Training       Sensitivity                   Surrender

Exercise                Experience                  Receptivity                  Faith

Self-control           Freedom                    Self-awareness            Purpose

  

B)    Study the qualities which you have selected. Now write down what you see as getting in the way of obtaining what you need or desire. Which needs do you feel you can develope by yourself.

What is standing in your way? How is it standing in your way? Why ? Why does it have to be in your way? Is it because of some one else? Then why? Or is it because of you? Are you standing in your own way? Why? Keep asking why or what, then ask why or what to that answer, then to another. Keep going, it may come to you. It may be simple or it may take time to solve. We may not do, say or accomplish something we want because we blame some one else for it, for some one (or ourselves) standing in our way, or we don’t want to because it is not what some one else wants or needs – but what about you? Do something for you. If it’s something you need or want, it is not up to some one else. It is not up to us to please some one else. Do something for you – yes, you yourself. So what, some one else may be disappointed, irritated, annoyed – So be it. (or just maybe even motivated by you.) They are entitled to their emotions, but their emotions are not your responsibility. They will need to figure that out on their own. When will it be time for you? If some one deserves all the things you do and give to them – don’t you deserve the same at the very least? Really think about it, and question yourself, then question your question.

I am going to pick a few from this list each day, week or even month. However long it takes to accomplish my goals. These may be very new things to us- so yes, we might have to work at them, but it is something we deserve and will be rewarding in the end. If I can not accomplish one, I will just put it aside for another opportunity – I will not be discouraged, that’s not what this is about. If I can do it, good for me – I deserve it. If I am unable to accomplish it at a certain point, that is ok, it is for me, and up to me and only me. It is my choice, I will have another chance. I will not set irrational and unreasonable goals. Someday, this list may be very tiny or not exist at all. Imagine that for a moment. What kind of relaxed, “love-who- I- am- me” would I be?!?!?!?!

I hope you take some time do try this and discover your self or new self (or the self you have always been, but didn’t know  – or know you could be). Maybe you will start a new adventure with this – I hope you do. What do you really, really want. What do you really, really need. Are our wants and need very different anyway?

Good luck!

                                                           

President’s Day – Presidential Quotes

Calvin Coolidge
I have found it advisable not to give too much heed to what people say when I am trying to accomplish something of consequence. Invariably they proclaim it can’t be done. I deem that the very best time to make the effort. 

Calvin Coolidge
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent. The slogan press on has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. No person was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave. 

Franklin Delano Roosevelt
The country needs and, unless I mistake its temper, the country demands bold, persistent experimentation. It is common sense to take a method and try it; if it fails, admit it frankly and try another. But above all, try something. A people… who are possessed of the spirit of commerce, who see and who will pursue their advantages may achieve almost anything.                    George Washington, letter to Benjamin Harrison, October 10, 1784 

George Washington :

 “I hope I shall always possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most enviable of all titles, the character of an honest man.”

Abraham Lincoln 

Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm.

Abraham Lincoln

I do the very best I know how – the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end.

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No wonder we have such a great country eh?

(More Lincoln & other Presidential quotes here: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/a/abrahamlin383153.html )

 

 

You’re not at the age of not believing are you?

When you rush around in hopeless circles
Searching ev’rywhere for something true
You’re a t the age of not believing
When all the “make believe” is through

When you set aside your childhood heroes
And your dreams are lost up on a shelf
You’re a t the age of not believing
And worst of all you doubt yourself

You’re a castaway where no one hears you
On a barren isle in a lonely sea
Where did all the happy endings go?
Where can all the good times be?

You must face the age of not believing
Doubting ev’rything you ever knew
Until at last you start believing
There’s something wonderful…
Truly wonderful in you.

(Bedknobs and Broomsticks)

An Irish fathers saying

Here’s to you as good as you are

Here’s to me as bad as I am.

as good as you are,

as bad as I am,

I’m as good as you are;

as bad as I am!

Thursday’s inspirational proverb

Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.

A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.