Requirements

WHAT I REALLY NEED IN MY LIFE  

A)    Select the words below which to fit into the following sentence. Add any other important needs in your life.

“What I really need in my life right now is more…”

  

Vitality                  Self-esteem                 Tenderness                  Composure

Security                 Recognition                Generosity                  Centering

Activity                 Confidence                  Caring                         Awareness

Health                   Motivation                  Sharing                        Solitude

Strength                Knowledge/Skill         Music                          Devotion

Energy                   Opportunities             Laughter                     Contemplation

Fitness                   Challenges                 Support                      Serenity

Relaxation             Variety                       Self-expression            Trust

Comfort                Structure                     Companionship           Insight

Nutrition               Accomplishments        Harmony                     Joy

Touching               Control                       Romance                     Commitment

Imagination           Intimacy                      Communion

Sleep                     Money                        Patience                       Integration

Coordination         Responsibility              Beauty                         Forgiveness

Flexibility              Education/Training       Sensitivity                   Surrender

Exercise                Experience                  Receptivity                  Faith

Self-control           Freedom                    Self-awareness            Purpose

  

B)    Study the qualities which you have selected. Now write down what you see as getting in the way of obtaining what you need or desire. Which needs do you feel you can develope by yourself.

What is standing in your way? How is it standing in your way? Why ? Why does it have to be in your way? Is it because of some one else? Then why? Or is it because of you? Are you standing in your own way? Why? Keep asking why or what, then ask why or what to that answer, then to another. Keep going, it may come to you. It may be simple or it may take time to solve. We may not do, say or accomplish something we want because we blame some one else for it, for some one (or ourselves) standing in our way, or we don’t want to because it is not what some one else wants or needs – but what about you? Do something for you. If it’s something you need or want, it is not up to some one else. It is not up to us to please some one else. Do something for you – yes, you yourself. So what, some one else may be disappointed, irritated, annoyed – So be it. (or just maybe even motivated by you.) They are entitled to their emotions, but their emotions are not your responsibility. They will need to figure that out on their own. When will it be time for you? If some one deserves all the things you do and give to them – don’t you deserve the same at the very least? Really think about it, and question yourself, then question your question.

I am going to pick a few from this list each day, week or even month. However long it takes to accomplish my goals. These may be very new things to us- so yes, we might have to work at them, but it is something we deserve and will be rewarding in the end. If I can not accomplish one, I will just put it aside for another opportunity – I will not be discouraged, that’s not what this is about. If I can do it, good for me – I deserve it. If I am unable to accomplish it at a certain point, that is ok, it is for me, and up to me and only me. It is my choice, I will have another chance. I will not set irrational and unreasonable goals. Someday, this list may be very tiny or not exist at all. Imagine that for a moment. What kind of relaxed, “love-who- I- am- me” would I be?!?!?!?!

I hope you take some time do try this and discover your self or new self (or the self you have always been, but didn’t know  – or know you could be). Maybe you will start a new adventure with this – I hope you do. What do you really, really want. What do you really, really need. Are our wants and need very different anyway?

Good luck!